Got a boy, but what I love to play dolls and posing as women? Arguably, most parents would not like the fact it happened to their son. However, if this happens, psychologist Elly Risman Musa asked that the parents first understand how this could happen.

Elly said, being male or female affects how they look, how they move the body, work, play and dress / dress up. It also affects their perceptions of themselves and what others think of them.

All the characteristics of being male or female is called gender. Being men and women bring a different trend. Boys are more aggressive in the actions and words than girls since preschool. Some studies say that girls are more empathic, cooperative to the parents and tend to seek approval from adults.

Formation of the personality of a child or female is strongly influenced by the way parents treat children, friends and cultural influences. Children tend to imitate people who serve as a model. In childhood children imitate same sex parents. They mimic the behavior of parents or other adults, especially behavior that gets a positive response.

Furthermore, the mother of three daughters is revealed, the treatment of parents affect children's knowledge, for example, girls know that playing football is a game for men. Fathers tend to treat boys and girls differently than mothers. Father's attitude does not like it when boys play dolls. Mom talked to more girls than boys. My father played more with boys than with girls.

Peers have an influence that can form the personality of boys and girls by giving positive or negative response to his friend's behavior. Usually boys do not like the attitude if there are friends who acted effeminate. Addition, the media can also affect children's behavior. Soap opera''often feature transvestite gender roles can influence the formation of boys,''he said.

Therefore, parents should treat their children according to gender and to the strengthening of the appropriate gender behavior. Parents also should be a good example for children since the early beginning of life, the child identifies himself with the parents. Parents must develop womanhood and motherhood girls and develop masculine and fatherly boys.

Parents, continued Elly, must show gratitude for the gift of a child whether male or female. Accept all the advantages and disadvantages of children from the physical side as well as the nature of default properties so that the identity of the child develops what it is. He will grow into himself.

Founder and Fruit Heart Foundation We are adding, on certain things boys and girls can be treated the same as in the teaching of science and knowledge. Parents do not need to differentiate learning opportunities - as happened in the past where the boys always get the chance to learn better by assuming the girls are staying at home so do not need higher education.

Girls and boys equally taught homework help. Because, boys and girls should also be able to cook, wash, and clean the house. Later in the day they have to stay in their dorm rooms can be set up properly. Furthermore, if they are married they can help each other.

In the case of boys who behave like women, may be due to several factors. First, hang out with older kids who are all women. It may be that children imitate the speech or style of his brothers. Not to mention the response of a parent or another adult who does not laugh or get upset when he was posing as women. Even if there are cases that occurred since childhood, the possibility of chromosomal abnormalities. However, these cases are very rare.

If there are children like this, gradually parents talk to children about what what is expected of a man (changing the way the boy to change the perception about him).

My father began to be involved in parenting so that children have a figure or model identification of the same gender. This should be done slowly and carefully and not in a hurry because children need time to recognize the difference in her. ''Actually the role gender awareness should be formed before the child enters kindergarten, so when it was entered elementary school she will know how to behave,''said Elly.